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I’ll hit you if you hit me!


This piece is long overdue. I finally decided to put it up because it can help somebody. It’s considered a timeless piece because it will always be relevant regardless if any domestic violence case made it to the media or not. There is always someone somewhere in the world that is going through this ordeal.

Domestic violence is one of the emotional subjects that gets the community fired up. I recollect treating this topic (4) four years ago in one of my radio episodes. Brace yourself while you listen. During the show, my guests expressed how their boyfriends used to batter them. One of the listeners shared her experience of her husband putting pillow on her nose and wanting to suffocate her.

Subsequently, he ran hot water to drown her in the bath tub. Imagine that! She wanted to leave that relationship but she was afraid if she did, he will find and do something tragic to her. Victims have different reasons for staying in an abusive relationship or not reporting it to the authority.

The case of Ray Rice got the media and more people speaking against domestic violence as if such incident has never happened before. Many people are going through it than the number of cases being reported or caught by chance. Rice either under the influence of alcohol or not, displayed a despicable action towards his lady. When I look at domestic violence, I stem from an ethical philosophy approach, which I will employ to comment on Whoopi Goldberg’s point

You may have the right to do anything but it does not mean it’s the right thing to do. If someone yelled at me during an argument, do I have the right to yell back? of course I do but it’s not the right method to quench the fire. Two wrongs don’t make it right. The problem some people have is they don’t practice doing the right thing. It’s all about doing the right thing regardless of what right you have.

Relationship can not survive with illogical, emotional, and abusive people. Partners who react instead of respond as described, are either going to end up putting bruises on each other, or break-up. It’s an unhealthy relationship. It will get to a point the victim will be pushed to the wall and forced to react. The reaction may be devastating. If you are in an abusive relationship, get counseling from the experts i.e Pastor, Therapist or National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233 or TTY 1−800−787−3224.

Gfem, host of Gfem Talk Show can be reached on twitter, @gfemradio or website


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